The upside of anger

so i finally watched the movie cause i've heard so much positive buzz about it. i am not quite sure how i feel about it..

there were so many things that happened in that movie that would have me steaming, but for some reason, the characters in the movie took it as something that could not be helped and shrugged it off: someone crashing into the glass door in the middle of the night. someone kicking down a bathroom door. being told that they couldn't go to the college they wanted to go to and that what they wanted to do in life would not get them anywhere. lots of yelling and backtalking (which i am guilty of) in public (but not this one). not telling the mom about an engagement... yeah, there were some yelling involved and wild gesturing but for the most part, they all took it very well. no one got mad. if they did, they got over it pretty fast. i get so angry at my mom when she tells me not to do something and i make a stink about it and stand my ground. and i would have flipped out about the glass door smashing in the middle of the night and worried about burglars and shit and having to clean it up and calling someone to put up a new door.

i guess that is the whole point of the movie and i completely missed it. when we get mad and focus on that, we forget everything and everyone else. it's so easy to hold on to anger and just be mad at the whole world cause there is always something to be angry about. most of the stuff we get angry about, we can't control and there really is nothing else you can do about a broken door and you can yell to your heart's desire until you bust a pipe and that door will still stay broken. Hopefully, the person responsible for it would be extremely sorry and help out in the cleaning and even pay for the stupid thing. i mean, something must come out of it!

and there lies my problem. always wanting something to happen or replace what was taken. always thinking it is not fair that others get what they want and "I" never do. but that's not life is it? we don't always get what we want or something in return. that's the harsh truth, that is.